“Miserable” can mean a lot of things in this context, but specifically I meant how people post about how they feel. Which doesn’t sound that bad, except it’s always exaggerated and extremely concerning. I’ve experienced this before with one of my friends who posted almost 15 disturbing and borderline suicidal things to her story in a row, dropped off for 5 hrs, and came back saying she was totally fine and was just sad. She has been doing this for months and it’s not even seen as concerning to others. And this isn’t just random people posting to their story, this is everywhere and considered normal.
While posts like this can be seen as just “dark humor”, it crosses the line when it’s posted publicly, not everyone knows your joking and not everyone has a tolerance for such deprecating thoughts. And really, no one should have a tolerance for this, saying these things should not be seen as jokes or exaggerated or minuscule, and constantly posting them and making jokes keeps people in a cycle of sadness, with no one trying to genuinely help them.
Overreaction
Posting about deprecating thoughts & feelings are, most of the time, an overreaction of something minor. Instead of trying to fix it or talking to the person that caused them to feel like that, they post about their friends finding their deceased body? Literally just please stop overreacting and think for a second, maybe I shouldn’t post an in detail description of my friends faces after finding my corpse because my friend sent a “dry” text. Miss, there’s people that are dying. You’ll survive.
Inability to find help
With so many people posting these things, it becomes normal and not worrying , which can actually prevent people from seeking help. If you constantly post these deprecating jokes & thoughts, it will be taken less seriously, and if someone genuinely needs help and is using those posts to ask for it, no one will realize it, they’ll just like the post and move on. We need to stop treating self-deprecation and depression like a relatable joke and treat it seriously.
Conclusion
I’m not saying to just stop posting something that you find funny, but stop spamming it, stop saying it after any minor inconvenience, because by constantly overreacting people who need help can’t get it since people think they’re joking. And by just letting yourself drown in negativity, you won’t be able to crawl out.
